Thursday, September 10, 2009

The Magic of Movies

The other day I finished reading Nicolas Meyer's wonderful memoir,The View From the Bridge: Memories of Star Trek and a Life in Hollywood. Highly recommended for anyone who is either a Star Trek fan or who wants to know more about how movies are (and aren't) made. (More details and a wonderful review here.)

One of the passages I found most interesting is at the very end of the book (p 236). This sums up my feelings, as well.

Watching movies at home, on a screen however large and a sound system however noisy, is simply not the same thing as seeing them in a theater. My dad used to say that watching movies on TV was like getting kissed over the telephone. What's missing in seeing a film on television is a central component of what it means to be human - the assembly. Whether it's at a church, at a play, or at the movies, the idea of losing your identity at a gathering of others - known or unknown to you - while sharing a common experience, a journey, an event, is uniquely human, and in my opinion we abandon such practices at our peril. Gatherings are important, and certainly better than going through life with ear buds. Never mind the theology or medium in question, concentrate on the part where you rub shoulders with strangers. Cities are places you walk or ride the subway, places where you look at people, they look at you; you don't pass them on the freeway at seventy miles an hour. At the end of a performance of Beethoven's Third, you and the audience have shared an adventure, at one individual and collective. The experience make you a better person. Don't ask me how or why, but it does. There isn't any movie shown on television that wouldn't be better in a movie theater. Art is fragile - it can be interrupted by crying kids, the telephone, the neighbors, what have you. Gatherings, whether for music, church, plays, films, or ballets, are experiences to which you must make a commitment and in making that commitment, in leaving your home to devote yourself to that communal experience, you reaffirm your humanity.

How awesome is that?! Interesting implications for internet churches, but explains why video venues for churches, conferences, and simulcasts are just as effective as those where the speaker is present physically. Food for thought, for sure.

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Back to School

Hard to believe that summer is over already and the kids are back in school. Now we have both Jordan and Jonah in junior high and both in sports (Jonah in cross country and Jordan in football). Such great boys - we're so proud of them!

Thursday, August 27, 2009

What does a Youth Pastor do all day?

Saw this excellent post about a youth pastor's job description. So true! Here is a great clip.
Here are some examples of what I do: pray, study, read, keep up with teen culture (not very easy to do), preach, teach, share, text, email, facebook, administrate, organize, make phone calls, return phone calls, conflict resolution, plan activities, hospital visits, confront, encourage, get frustrated, strategize, buy new tools for ministry, edit video, clean up, talk to parents, support my pastor, go to meetings, travel, meet new people, raise money, balance my time with my family, go to school events (concerts, games, …), develop leaders, update website, share life with others, stay up all night, drive a bus and go out to eat!

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Rubik's Cube and a Football - This Sunday at Evergreen

 
I have the privilege of sharing the message again this week at my church. It's the first in a two-part series on sharing your faith.

Friday, July 31, 2009

A Picture of Our Relationship with God

I read a great post in Donald Miller's blog today and wanted to share a quote. It's a bit longer than I usually share, but it's only a portion of an ever longer, better post. This is a beautiful way to understand God and our relationship with Him. Here's a clip.
I had a long conversation with a distinguished scholar last month whose lifelong expertise is story structure. He is not a Christian. And as we talked, he said something that fascinated me. He said this:

“I understand you Christians. I understand the essence of your message. It’s this: If you are not a good person, you are going to burn in hell for all eternity.”

As I said, this man was a distinguished scholar and so it surprised me when he made this statement from a position of absolute knowing. There was no doubt in his voice. He wasn’t asking me to confirm. He knew. But he was absolutely wrong. That isn’t the essence of the Christian story, and anybody who believes so is a heretic.

Our story, and by our story I don’t mean the Christian story, I mean humanity’s story, is this:

The Trinity existed forever in a completely loving community. They were and are other focused, without what we think of as ego (though I believe they have something like ego, we would not recognize it in comparison to our own) and they created an existence, including you and I, to enjoy their company. That is the most loving thing a perfectly loving being could do. But love cannot be controlling, it has to set it’s muse free, so they gave humanity an option out. And humanity took it, thus, by necessity, there was a separation between pure good and anything other than pure good. So now, we who have been designed to be complete in God, seek affirmation and validation from each other as though our lives depend on it. But it doesn’t work. Nobody has agency but God. So God sends his son to earth and his son essentially says this:

“You guys have all walked away from God. He can’t have anything to do with you, because he is purely good. But look, I haven’t walked away from him, so if you marry me, and we become one, you’ll be reunited with the Trinity. He’ll look at you and see me. We’ll do this at a wedding in heaven. Until the wedding, though, just have faith. It’s as though it’s already done. But it’s going to kind of suck until then.”

So that’s where we are in our story. We are waiting for the wedding, and until then, we have hope, and we have an explanation for our hope.
Be sure to read the entire post: "How the Stories You Believe are Screwing With Your Mind". Not a complete theological treatise or explanation of the Gospel, by any means, (nor is it meant to be) but it is a wonderful starting point for discussing our faith. I can't wait to read Don's next book: A Million Miles in a Thousand Years. It's about the personal implications of story and it should be fascinating.

Thursday, July 30, 2009

USA Monk Tribute Promo

If you watch any of USA Network's awesome original series (Monk, Psych, Burn Notice, Law & Order: Criminal Intent, In Plain Sight) you'll get a kick out of this hilarious tribute video for Monk. It's amazing how many great shows USA has put together. Our family enjoys all of these very much. Great storytelling and wonderful characters.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Blogging, "Micro-blogging", and Facebook

What's the difference between having a blog and keeping your Facebook status updated (or Twitter, or MySpace, etc.)? Isn't it the same thing?

I've been a Facebook fan for some time now and recently added my 300th friend. That may seem like a lot to some, depending on how long you've been on Facebook and your age. Others may find this quite a small number - usually younger people or those who friend at random anyone they've ever met. But I digress.

For a little while now I have been much better at keeping my Facebook status updated but have allowed the blog here to languish. Part of this is the assumption that most of the people I know are Facebook friends and can "follow" me there. Recently, however, I have begun updating my status a lot less frequently. I started updating my status only when I felt that I had something more significant to share than "heading to work again" or "staying up late tonight". I weary of reading some of my Facebook friends' updates that are constantly filled with trivia. It's not that I don't want to know what they are up to, but there is a point when the trivia becomes trivial. (For instance, there is the new habit some of my friends have gotten into where they post lines from a song as a status update. Sorry, guys, but I just don't care unless there is something in those lines of particular significance to you. If so, then explain it. Otherwise you may end up in my "hidden" list of status updates.)

The benefit of blogging is that there is the opportunity to expand on a thought and really flesh out items of more significance. No, I won't be giving up Facebook, which I think is a wonderful way to keep in touch, network, etc. But I think a nice balance of blogging is a great way to keep my communication skills sharp (as Seth Godin pointed out in my blog post yesterday.) Also, as these blog posts get highlighted in my Facebook status updates, there will be opportunity for interaction via the Facebook comments rather than on this site. Hopefully I can share some helpful, interesting, thought-provoking, or simply entertaining things on the blog and we can discuss together via Facebook. Let me know what you think.

Monday, July 27, 2009

Why blog?

Saw this today and thought it was brilliant. Certainly something worth aspiring to, for sure. I'm going to give it a try. We'll see how it goes.

Saturday, July 25, 2009

Dave Ramsey's Total Money Makeover LIVE!

Meeting Dave Ramsey and sitting in on a taping of his radio show was one of the highlights of 2007 for me. Rosalie and I also were able to host a Financial Peace University class at our home early the next year. But the one thing I've always wanted to be able to do but never had the chance to is to go to one of Dave's Total Money Makeover LIVE events. These events are held in various large cities around the country, but there has never been one close enough for me to be able to attend.

Host Dave's Live Event!
That's changed now that Dave's September 19 live event will be simulcast to thousands of locations around the U.S. Our church - Evergreen Community Church - is privileged to be able to co-host this event along with Our Redeemer Lutheran Church which will be held at the Evergreen Community Church campus - 710 5th Ave SW, Pine City. The event runs from noon until 5 p.m. with the doors opening at 11 a.m. The cost to attend is $25, which includes a workbook.

This is a high-energy 5-hour event where Dave shares great information about taking back control of your money. Whether you are married and need to get on the same page or single and need the tools to stay financially focused, this event is for you! Dave shares personal experiences, stories, and information not found elsewhere. It's packed with humor, energy, and incredible information.

Because we're hosting this locally, you won't have to drive to the Cities, try to find a place to (pay to) park, and fight huge crowds and long lines. Instead you'll be able to gather with a couple of hundred people from east-central Minnesota right here in Pine City to laugh and learn together.

I'll be the key contact person at Evergreen and Glenn Westing is the person to talk to at Our Redeemer. Checks for tickets can be dropped off at either church office or given to either of us personally. Reserve your spot now as the facility will accommodate about 200 people and we anticipate this filling up quickly.

Friday, July 3, 2009

Working on Time Out! for Sunday

Stress, overwork, pace of life, burnout. These types of issues are epidemic in our society. But that's not the kind of life God calls us to. So how do we take advantage of the Time Outs that God gives us? That's what we'll be talking about this Sunday.

I am excited about the opportunity to share with our church.

Friday, May 29, 2009

Award-Winning Son!

Congratulations to Jonah for his Presidential Education Award for Outstanding Academic Excellence! Way to go!!
Congrats also to all of the other recipients in the sixth grade class. Only 12 students received this honor this year from our school.
Jonah also received several other awards this morning as the students celebrated the last day of school - and the last day of elementary school for them! The year has gone so fast! Seems like just last year I was blogging about Jordan winning this award. Oh, yeah, I was.

I can't believe I'm now the father of two junior high boys! They're so awesome!!

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Moving Day on Thursday

Well, moving day is finally approaching. This Thursday we'll be moving out of what has been probably our favorite and best house we've ever lived in and moving about four miles away, just outside of town on Cross Lake Road. The place we'll be renting is the former Crafter's Cottage scrapbooking retreat house. It's a wonderful house and a real blessing for us to be able to find something so nice this close to town.

Of course, it wouldn't be moving day for the Spahrs without some type of inclement weather. This time we're expecting rain but hoping it won't last all day long.

If you're in the area and want to drop by and give us a hand for some of the day, please do so. We'll have some food for you, too! We're starting shortly after 8 a.m. and going until we're done (which hopefully won't be too late in the afternoon, depending on the weather).

Friday, April 24, 2009

So good!

One of my new favorite things! Pepsi throwback, made with "real sugar". More info here. I just tasted the Pepsi I bought down at Cub yesterday ($3.50 for a 12 pack of cans). Don't know if Walmart or Nelson's here in Pine City has it or will be getting any, but if you like Pepsi at all, you have to get some! It will only be around for about eight weeks, so get it before it's gone.

The Pepsi has a very smooth tatse and none of the dry aftertaste the corn syrup sweetened pepsi usually has. Can't wait to try the Mountain Dew. (Coke has some "Coca-Cola Natural" coming out that is also made with real sugar, but I haven't found any yet.)

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

My Favorite Administrative Professionals

I have worked with some incredible church administrative assistants/secretaries in my years of youth ministry. Almost every one has become a dear friend, and none moreso than the one I want to highlight today on this Administrative Professionals day, and that is Jeanne Johnson at Pine City Evangelical Free Church.

She has given her all to the church through the years and does far more for others behind the scenes than anyone will ever know. It's not because she's a workaholic, but out of a sense of love for the church and people and desire to do the very best job possible that she is often there early mornings and late nights on various days of the week. She pours her time and energy into her job and works with a true servant's heart. She strives for excellence without being an unhealthy perfectionist. She always seeks to learn more so she can serve better. Jeanne is one of the hardest workers I have ever served with.

You don't have to work in church ministry for long before you realize that it is very difficult. You take all kinds of criticism and abuse - mostly unfair and sometimes even from the very people you work under. Jeanne has suffered more than her fair share of this and yet in spite of the hurtful and untrue barbs she has taken in the past, she continues to serve with a cheerful attitude, humble spirit, and open heart. She is always willing to talk with people and is one of the best listeners I know.

So congratulations, Jeanne, on this special day. I dearly miss serving alongside you but will always count it a privilege to know you and call you my friend. Have a great AP day!! We love you!!!

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Garage/Moving Sale this Wednesday only

We're moving and want to get rid of as much stuff as possible so we won't have to move it! (And if you're planning to help us move on May 1, you'll really appreciate our desire to downsize!)

We are priced to sell. Seriously. It seems like everything is about a quarter. Come for great deals on...
  • Housewares - Dishes, small kitchen appliances, decorations
  • Clothes
  • Games
  • Toys - Lego, Yu-gi-oh, Iron Giant, Star Wars, etc.
  • Video games - PC games, Gamecube, Gameboy DS, Wii
  • Books - science fiction, graphic novels, books on tape, kids books, and home improvement
  • Videos
  • CDs - Contemporary Christian, worship, pop
... and much, much more!

1041 9th Street, Pine City, MN (just down the street from Grace Lutheran Church)
Wednesday, April 15, 7 a.m. - 3:30 p.m.
Thursday, April 16, 7 a.m. - noon+


Update: Doing so well on Wednesday we decided \not to open Thursday. Things are pretty picked through. Awesome weather and great day.

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Real Estate Update

I've got real estate on my mind, as you might well imagine, since we've been spending the last month working with various agents in addition to attempting to find rentals on our own. A few learnings...

If you're moving to the Bradenton/Sarasota area of Florida you couldn't do better than contactings Wendy Lynn at Keller Williams realty in Lakewood Ranch. She spent two days showing us rental properties in the area in spite of the fact that she makes almost no money on rentals and that's not even what their agency normally handles. Of course they are Dave Ramsey Endorsed Local Providers so above-and-beyond service is what they always provide. She is one of the best Realtors we've ever worked with. (Along with Lisa Stevens in the Twin Cities area who helped us sell our Northfield house and buy our current home. She rocks, too!) Wendy really cared about us as people, not just clients (...unlike our current Realor in Pine City who can barely be bothered to call us back and has done almost nothing - okay, absolutely nothing - to help us search for a rental in the area, in spite of the fact that she is making a good deal of money on our current house sale. She will definitely not be getting referrals from us.)

Second learning: there is almost nothing in the Pine City area or surrounding communities for rent if you are looking for a house with at least three bedrooms. We saw one place the other day - the only one in the area on the rental marked - and it was pit. It would take hundreds and hundreds of dollars (or more) to bring it up to livable condition and they still wanted $1000 a month! Are you kidding me? I know that supply is almost nil, but still...

Some property manager or real estate investor could really do well by buying and fixing up single family homes with 3 bedrooms or more in the Pine City metropolitan area and putting them up for rent. It is a completely untapped market as far as supply, and I have to believe there is demand out there beyond just our family.

Fortunately for us we have tapped into the "underground" market/network (ie. friends and their friends and so on). Not that there is a lot there either, but we do have a lead we are pursuing. Right now we are trusting that since God seems to be calling us to stay in the area for now that He will provide both the housing and finances to rent it.

Sunday, March 29, 2009

Pine-ing Away for Minnesota

Okay, that title doesn't have the same ring to it as my Sunshine Day post, but as it turns out we will now not be moving to Florida. My job transfer had been approved and we were minutes away from signing a lease on a rental house when we felt God saying "no". We just didn't have a peace about moving to Florida right now.

So we are staying in Pine City. I'll be working at Walmart and hopefully moving into management in a little bit. We are excited to settle in and get involved in the great church we have been attending here in town (Evergreen Church).

We are very sad not to be able to be closer to my dad, aunt, and friends in Florida, but that's what vacations are for, I suppose. We are also sad to leave the wonderful sunshine and warm weather behind (it's supposed to snow Tuesday and it's almost April!) Of course we have nice scenery here, too, from time to time - that's sunset on Lake Pokegema in the picture up above.

On the other hand we are happy to be able to stay close to the wonderful friends we have made in our neighborhood and at work. And we are glad to be able to keep the boys in the great schools in Pine City. (Now if someone could do something about that awful auditorium... but that's a topic for another post.) I also have greatly enjoyed working at the Pine City Walmart and have made some good friends there.

So, Pine City, you're stuck with us for the time being. If anyone in the Pine City school district knows a house we can rent, let us know! Be seeing you!

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

The Real Estate Agent Who Called Back

No, this is not an imaginary story, dream, or fantasy post. We actually had a real estate agent who called us back today! If you are wondering why this is a big deal, you obviously haven't dealt with real estate agents recently. We barely hear from our own agent in Pine City who has listed and - finally - sold our house. Trying to find someone in Florida to return a call - because they never answer their phones! - was difficult. I even tried contacting an old friend I grew up with who manages properties and even he never called back.

So how did we find a real estate agent who would call us? We went through Dave Ramsey's web site, clicked on his real estate Endorsed Local Provider (ELP) link, and found one in Florida near where we will be moving. In a few minutes we had a name (Steve DuToit) and contact info for our agent and in less than 24 hours we got a call from the agency with a very helpful agent who is assisting us in searching for a rental in the area. Dave comes through for us again! I know they are careful to endorse only great agents which makes me feel good about who we are working with.

It's pretty sad, in a sense, that something as simple as returning a phone call/email/etc. can make such a huge impact but so few do it. I can't tell you the number of churches I've contacted whom I've never heard from again. Several years ago this happened with a large well-known church in the Madison area. We had spent the entire day meeting on site with the search team and the senior pastor (who also gave us a tour of the city). We left with a great impression and were never contacted again - no email or anything to indicate that we had ever been there or been under consideration! Seriously, for churches that are supposed to be caring for people, the way they treat potential candidates is abysmal. I suppose it does give you a clue to the church leadership and culture, though.

In any event, we now have a realtor in the area we can work with and you can bet we'll be in touch in a few years when we're ready to buy another house. How hard would it have been for one of the other agents we tried to contact to reply? They could have had a faithful customer (and a cool write-up on our blog!)

Monday, March 9, 2009

It's a Sunshine Day!

You may already have heard via my Facebook page or the rela-net (relative network), but our house has sold and we will soon be moving to Florida. We're still waiting to lock down details on exactly when we'll be moving - depending on our closing date here and when we can find housing and employment in the Sunshine State - but we'll be back in my hometown of Bradenton by the end of May.

I never thought I would want to move back to Florida, but over the past year or so that has really changed. We were talking with a church in Bradenton recently about a youth ministry position and our whole family was very excited about the prospect. We decided that even if that opportunity did not work out, we all still really wanted to be in Bradenton near my Dad and the rest of my family and many friends who still live there. It'll be a great chance for Jordan and Jonah to get to spend more time with their grandparents on my side of the family whom they have only been able to see once a year or so until now. It may mean that I will be out of vocational ministry for a season, but we really feel like God is leading in this direction. I'll still be actively involved in a local church and be able to volunteer with the youth ministry wherever we end up attending.

Another attraction of living in Florida for us is the great weather. We are all very tired of the snow and cold - it seems like this winter has been worse than most. None of us are into winter sports (other than the occasional broomball game) but we love the water and swimming which we only had the chance to enjoy twice last year. I've lived in the Midwest for over twenty years now and am ready to warm back up!

We'll keep all our friends and family posted with our new address once we know what it will be. Our e-mails will remain the same so you can keep in touch that way, via my blog here, or through Facebook. Plus we'll look forward to having many of you visit and stay with us on vacation! (You can spring for Disney World.)

Monday, February 9, 2009

Jordan's Speech Meet

Jordan competed in speech this year in the category of Great Speeches. He gave Robert F. Kennedy's speech in Indianapolis following Martin Luther King's assassination. The speech included commentary that Jordan had researched about the speech. He did an awesome job, placing 6th in the category. The Pine City Junior High Speech group placed 2nd overall!

Great work, everyone! Here is a picture of the team with their trophy. (You can see Jordan's head in the back row, just to the right of center, above the kid with the baseball cap on.)

Friday, February 6, 2009

A Wonderful - and very funny - Treat

A dear friend of ours surprised our family tonight by having a pizza and breadsticks delivered to our house. (Youth pastors and pizza - you can't go wrong there!) It was a super thoughtful and delightful treat.

The funniest thing happened when I got a call from Pizza Hut asking for directions to my bar. I said, "What? I don't have a bar."

She replied, "We have an order here and I thought they said it was for Rob's Bar."

Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Busy Weekend

A good friend e-mailed today to ask for an update on Jonah. I was reminded that not everyone who reads my blog also has a Facebook account and keeps up with my personal family stuff. That tends to be the place where I micro-blog about just brief personal items while using this blog for longer, deeper insights, observations and updates.

Nevertheless, here is the update: Jonah is doing well and should have his stitches out on Friday. He came down with the stomach flu on Saturday, followed by Rosalie with a milder but longer-lasting version the next day. Jordan was afflicted, as well, and both boys spent the day at home Monday, but are back to school today. Rosalie is doing better, as well, and I somehow seem to have dodged the bullet this time. So far. I hope.

One other highlight of this past week was Jordan's first speech meet. He is in the Great Speeches category and delivers Robert F. Kennedy's speech in Indianapolis following Martin Luther King's assassination. Part of the speech has to be Jordan's own researched commentary. He did an excellent job - in spite of some nervousness - and received an A- from both judges (he had to devlier it at two different times). I'm very proud - as always. Congratulations, Jordan!

Thursday, January 22, 2009

Jonah's first stitches

Jordan was the first in the family to have a broken bone (with his foot due to a football injury last year) but Jonah now claimed first place from his brother for stitches. We has a call yesterday shortly after noon asking us to come get Jonah from school as he had fallen during a floor hockey game in gym and hit his head on a cement ledge, cutting his ear. Two hours and seven stitches later, he was home and beginning the healing process. His convalescence is continuing today after a restless night (he kept wanting to turn over, but can only sleep on one side). He should make a full recovery with only a small scar.

As you can see, Toby is taking good care of him, too!

Friday, January 16, 2009

Just a Quick Little Note

As I predicted in my last blog post (last month/year), things are finally beginning to pick up as far as job postings. It's still very slow and many fewer postings than we will no doubt see later in the spring, but at least there are some potentially compatible churches that I have sent my resume to. Nothing has gone beyond initial contact so far as many have only posted in the past week. A few have graciously responded to let me know they will be looking at resumes by the end of February - which is actually fairly quick for church search committees. I don't expect to have many - if any - interviews before late February, but at least it is encouraging to have some potential contacts.

The long, slow process of ministry placement can be discouraging, especially coming off of a disappointing ministry experience with the church leadership at my last church. But God has a way of keeping us encouraged even when we're feeling down. I received this awesome email from a good friend and former youth group student not too long ago. Here is an excerpt from the email he wrote when he found out about us leaving our last ministry posting:
I am sorry to hear that. I must say that I too share your surprise and sadness.

I will say this, though. Your unyielding trust in God's good and perfect will over the years is truly inspiring. It's the kind of "rubber hits the road" faith that is wonderfully encouraging and admirable. I don't know why God keeps throwing you guys around to this church and that, but your relentless pursuit of Him is a blessing. 

Just know (and you obviously have to already know this, but it bears repeating) that your work in these students' lives has certainly not been in vain. My life and faith in those critical junior/senior high years is due largely to your love and effort to raise up a young man with the truth of the gospel. I cannot thank you guys enough for being the church and giving me such a gift.

*Begin cornball section*

It's like that story about all the starfish being washed up on the shore, and the girl keeps throwing them back in and then the dude comes up to her and is like, "Hey, what the heck are you doing? There's like, a million of these things. You can't possibly think you're making any kind of difference." To which she replied as she tossed another starfish back into the ocean (and you know the ending): "It made a difference to that one." 

Even if you had yielded nothing in your ministry over all these years (which is certainly not the case), just know that I am that "one starfish." Your love, education, time, effort, etc. has made a world of difference to me.

*End cornball session*

I will pray that God sends you exactly where He needs you. And I will pray that exactly where He needs you will be exactly where you want to be. 

Love you guys.

That's the kind of thing that keeps us going in youth ministry in spite of the sometimes daunting challenges. I know how God has worked in the life of this young man and it's a humbling privilege to know He used Rosalie and me to minister to him through the years. It's amazing how much encouragement and blessing can be received from just a quick little note.

So who can you encourage today with a quick little note?